ACHIEVING TRANCENDENCE

ACHIEVING STOICALNESS(unaffected by negative emotions) : WAY TO DEAL WITH BULL SHIT

Human race is living a intriguing and disturbingly provocative existence currently. We have become more reactive than being proactive in achieving a attitude that makes us have an indifferent approach to pain or pleasure. Stressful and frustrated behavior in dealing with people who do not have the same set of believes as ours ,  certain intricacies of life , unexpected  and adverse circumstances. We react at the slightest provocation and are easily annoyed if things are not going our way. Life has become more of theatric where the daily drama is never ending and we really need to find a way to transcend and reinforce our sanity that has been sapped by the so called scavengers. Achieving stoicalness is very difficult considering the inner resistance today’s want –it – all  rat race generation is facing.

Here are some ideas that you can inculcate to transcend and not get affected by mental peace depleters.

1)      Be attentive only to constructive criticism : People will talk bullshit, pull you down , will make you feel unworthy, try to manipulate you. But don’t sweat on unfair criticism. Destructive criticism crops from pangs on anger, jealousy, frustration ,threat. You just need to let go and detach. Somehow rationality of humans get clogged by emotions which unable us to differentiate between constructive and destructive criticism. We need to take time and respond , not react.

2)      Accept the fact that life is not easy : Life is unpredictable  and stop looking at it with rose tinted glasses, we cannot control everything in life . What we can control is our action and our reaction to the situation. Always geared up to be prepared for the worst , that does not mean you become all cynical and look at all the opportunities life has to provide with pessimism . Hope for the best. Surrender to the fact that life can not always be according to your expectation

3)      Don’t act as a control freak : We cannot control other people’s reaction , attitude , behavior and mentality or their lives. Let go of the innate desire to dominate and control other peoples action as in the long run you can only control your reaction and action. Eliminate the desire for achieving perfection in all domains and life will be perfect as it is.

4)      Stop unnecessary analysis and thinking : Stop obsessing about every small detail and fussing over irrelevant trivialities of life. Just let it be ! . Don’t get caught up in never ending thought process as it leads to frustration.

5)      Be in the present : Human race is busy digging the past to save the future while their present suffers. We are so occupied with our past issues and future interests that our present is impaired. Try to live in the present as you cannot control the future and cannot change the past.

6)      Let others take over the moment of glory  : When faced with a silly argument , let others win . Counter arguments will in return make us defensive , depletes energy and alienates us from the people we love. Let others have the joy and glory of being right and more enlighten. There is so much to learn from everyone. Someone who was rude to us teaches us patience and tolerance .

So stop being judgemental and fussy about all the people. They are all here to teach us something or the other.

7)       Always be a giver : Be the first one to show love. Be the first one to say sorry or to rekindle a friendship. Don’t hold onto resentments or grudges. Don’t exaggerate make a mountain of a molehill. This will make you less defensive and you will feel inner peace and contentment that stems from the fact that happiness is more important than being right.

8)      Stop living life with a sense of urgency : Life is not an unforeseen exigency. You just need to stop the neurotic behavior of doing everything now. I am not supporting procrastination  but this obsessive compulsive behavior of fretting over the inability to do everything at gun point will do no good in return increase anxiety and depression. Cut yourself some slack and just relax.

9)      Gratification  and more Smiles:  Show gratitude for all the people who have always supported  you, all the materialistic pleasures that you have at your disposal , all the opportunities that you have ever received. Continuous gratification in return gives us more instances to be grateful for and restores inner peace. Spreading happiness in return attracts us to receiving more happiness.

10)   Cut yourself some slack : Give yourself 30 minutes everyday when you are not doing anything , not getting bored. Just experience being alive in the moment. Where nothing matters , only you and your existence matters.

11)   Beat the mood swings : Never take long term decision when faced with anger or bad mood. There are many thing which can agitate us , so just calm down and take a wise decision after cognitive and analytical thinking.

12)   Be humble and compassionate : You don’t always have to prove yourself and seek validation from other people. Avoid being a braggart as this will only make you more insecure. Let people talk about your accomplishments . Forgive and forget people who have done wrong. Practice compassion and understand other peoples perspective.